Baby massage is a wonderful way to bond with your little one, support their development, and help them feel relaxed and secure. However, as with any new skill, there are a few common mistakes that many parents make when starting out. The good news? They’re all easily avoided! Here are four of the most common baby massage mistakes and how to ensure your massage sessions are enjoyable and beneficial for both you and your baby.
1. Not Using the Correct Grade Oil
One of the biggest mistakes is using an oil that isn’t suitable for delicate baby skin. Some oils can be too thick, irritating, or even unsafe if ingested when babies put their hands in their mouths.
How to Avoid It:
✅ Ensure any oil you buy is of massage grade quality, this ensures that the oil has been refined to a suitable standard to apply to the skin (sorry but regular supermarket oil is not suitable and will not only leave you and your little one sticky but it will clog their pores and can cause skin issues).
✅ Choose a high-quality, cold-pressed, organic oil like sunflower or coconut oil. These are gentle, easily absorbed, and free from added fragrances or chemicals.
✅ Always do a patch test on your baby’s skin before using a new oil.
2. Using Too Much or Too Little Pressure
Many parents worry about pressing too hard and end up using such a light touch that their baby doesn’t feel the benefits—or they go the other way and apply too much pressure, making the experience uncomfortable.
How to Avoid It:
✅ Use a gentle but firm touch—think of the pressure you'd use to smooth out a crumpled piece of paper, or to stroke a cat or dog.
✅ Using oil or massaging over clothes aids with reducing friction and also helps you to maintain a firm but gentle pressure.
✅ Watch your baby's cues—if they seem unsettled, try adjusting your pressure to see what they prefer.
3. Massaging an Upset Baby
It’s natural to want to soothe your baby when they’re upset, but trying to start a massage when they’re crying or unsettled can be counterproductive.
How to Avoid It:
✅ Choose a time when your baby is calm, alert, and content, such as after a nap or bath.
✅ Cues that your little one might be receptive to massage are if they are cooing, looking around bright eyed, moving their limbs, generally looking content. This is known as the 'quiet alert' phase.
✅ If your baby becomes fussy during the massage, stop and try again later—there’s no pressure to complete a full routine every time!
4. Thinking You Need to Follow a Strict Routine
Many parents feel they have to follow a rigid massage routine every day, but flexibility is key. Baby massage should be an enjoyable experience, not another task on your to-do list.
How to Avoid It:
✅ Go with the flow—some days your baby might love a full massage, other days they might only want a few strokes.
✅ Don't worry or fret about how often you massage—whether for colic, teething, or bedtime. Missing a day (or several) won’t have any detrimental effects, but stressing over it will! Remember, baby massage is meant to be an enjoyable experience for you and baby.
✅ Even just a few minutes of gentle touch can be beneficial, so don’t stress about doing a “perfect” session every time.
Final Thoughts
Baby massage is about connection, not perfection! By avoiding these common mistakes, you’ll help create a relaxing and positive experience for both you and your baby. Whether you're a first-time parent or looking to improve your skills, baby massage is a beautiful way to nurture your little one while also supporting your own wellbeing.
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